Honoring Yourself- My Morning Meditation and Yoga Routine

Good Morning! I wanted to piece together a post that was a basic overview of my individual morning yoga & meditation routine. All I did was piece together my favorite energizing and focusing based energy poses, that takes no more than about 10 min in the morning to complete. For as mommas & busy ladies in general we all know how hectic our lives can get. It is utterly imperative to set time aside to clear and center yourself for the day ahead.

So firstly I start off in this pose and take about a couple of minutes to be still & meditate of my energy being cleared, balanced, productive, patient and protected. I try to always make sure to smile during this process because I believe it is a lovely way to set your day with energy that is positive and grateful.

From my meditation I then move on to do some cat/cow poses and make sure to truly pay attention to my slow and steadfast breathing. This is my modified version of childs pose. This is also really great for opening my hip flexors .

Then I go into my camel pose.
From there I transition into my downward facing dog position

After about three good in & out solid breaths I extended one leg behind me and hold for another couple of breaths. Then I sort of arch my foot to the other side and hold the pose again for a couple of smooth breaths.

Next I bring my foot up into my runner lunge position.

After my arm extension stretching, I immediately go into my warrior pose for a couple of nice deep breaths.

From the above pose I then would go back into downward dog and do the entire series of poses again but while using the other leg. Then I make my way back to downward facing down for the final time and then slowly walk forward to mountain pose but while hanging down in rag doll pose.

I typically always finish by slowly rising up into the pose below. I then typically down a glass of lemon water & grab my coffee. There is no set rhyme or reason to it and it’s something I dedicate to for at least 10 minutes in the morning. More is better if you can, but if your a super busy gal like me… I find 10 minutes is more than enough time to realign & to set some amazing intentions for the day. It gives me energy, focus, and all around great vibes to unfold my day to! Namaste!


Emotional Abuse and the Metaphysics behind it.

Humans are dichotomous creatures by nature. We are not only of the physical but the spiritual as well. Many choose to ignore or flat out deny both of these aspects as what we are truly made up of. I preach on a daily basis, to my readers, my family, my friends, anyone who will listen really the importance of nurturing and taking equal care of not only your physical health but your spiritual health as well. It is essential. This is in my opinion what makes abuse (of any form really), especially emotional abuse such a difficult and abrasive wound to overcome and most certainly a veniomous & heinous spiritual crime.

All abuse physical, sexual, emotional ect are horrendous.No matter what the source, all abuse results in lasting, profound and impactful emotional abuse. It is the emotional abuse that leaves individuals suffering in silence, fear, humiliation and often times guilt. Even physical forms of abuse will ultimately turn into deep emotional scars. The wounds may heal but the flashbacks and fear remain leaving a person paralyzed and overwhelmed. Individuals who suffer from emotional abuse often feel their scars are unjustified because there are no physical traces of hurt and pain and often times shame.

A few tips to always remember and push towards in your mind regarding abuse are as follows;

  1. You must make a valid and conscious effort to remove yourself from abusive situations. This of course is not always an option for many who fear for themselves and for their family or find themselves being emotionally blackmailed in an abusive situation. In these cases you must persevere- there are hotlines & counselors reading and willing to help you out of these dire situations. Regardless you are worth fighting for, worthy of being in a safe environment and WORTHY OF BEING HAPPY.
  2. Take a break/ get perspective. Get away or get involved in something that makes you feel like you again. Lifts your confidence and spirits back up. Meditation is my form of taking a break & getting a new form of perspective on myself & how to properly honor myself throughout the day
  3. Counseling
  4. Setting healthy boundaries. No one be it a friend or family member has the right you emotionally abuse and blackmail you. If they think that they do then it is perfectly acceptable to draw that boundary for your own sanity and explain you will not be engaging in a toxic relationship with anyone.

The thing is…. you are not the worlds punching bag, and know matter how many times you choose to excuse the kind of abuse another directs towards you. It is never warranted and most certainly never acceptable. Even if you love someone with all you have, that does not ever justify sacrificing your own well being for another’s frustration. As stated emotional abuse is abuse suffered in silence, confusion and most often times denial. Often time it is truly the most psychologically damaging because it is suffered in silence. It stifles ones spark & kills any sort of confidence.

If you don’t stand up for you, who in the world will?

Gratitude


This Past Thursday American celebrated Thanksgiving. Now Thanksgiving isn’t exactly my favorite holiday, that honor would go to Halloween & Christmas. I do however love how Thanksgiving brings friends and family together. We are brought together, and we enjoy favorite recipes that have been passed down for generations & we celebrate the art of Gratitude. 

The formal definition of gratitude is the quality of being thankful. Readiness to show appreciation for and in return kindness. 

Gratitude to me is keeping myself in that positive mindset as much as I possibly can. We are all human & its impossible to be happy & upbeat all of the time. However when I am low & then force myself to focus on what I’m truly thankful for, It always seems to lift my spirits, confidence, and overall will to succeed. Looking at all I am grateful for reminds me that what I do & who I am is indeed important.

I actually started a gratitude challenge about a month out before Thanksgiving that I heard about from my MOPS group. You text one person every day for 14 days 3 things your grateful for. The whole idea is that practicing and forcing yourself to focus on what you are grateful for will essentially shift your perception. Your problems may dissipate or seem less monumental. That is the power of gratitude to alter how you see things so that you may focus on all the abundance you already have been blessed with. 

What Yoga Means to Me

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Yoga is currently an extremely popular exercise fad. Yoga for me, and many others however means so much more than some trendy exercise activity to look cool. In fact, in full disclosure, I rarely look half as glamorous as the talented insta yogi’s. The thing is, that Yoga is not meant to be something you do to make you appear better than others. It’s not about being more “hip” and “sophisticated” than others, and it certainly should be seen as so much more than a trendy fad.

Yoga is about promoting and nurturing not only physical heath  but mental health most importantly. As previously stated I rarely look cool doing my yoga but I still practice it almost daily. That’s with small children dripping off of me even lol. That is what embracing the realities of life is all about however. There will always be interruptions throughout the day and life. For me though, if I can focus just a little time in my morning to truly concentrate and focus on a little bit of structure, strength and balance in my practice I feel it spill over into adding structure, strength and balance into my overall day and ultimately my life.

I simply do it  bc it sets me in a better state of mind. It eases my anxiety without me having to take medicine, it energizes me, gives me more patience which in turn makes me a better mother. It is a moment I can be fully emerged in myself & my connection to the universe.

Migrains

I must have been about 12 years old when I was walking through a department store with my mother and all of a sudden I started to see auras. I could barely see at all to be honest. I told my mother & she knew immediately what I was experiencing. Migraines are typically genetically inherited and my mother herself had suffered many years from the  from them. Hers however, would last for days.

I had my mother there to help me through the thick of it but that didn’t make it one bit easier to cope with. I would remember being at school or baby sitting and knew when those auras hit me that I had about 10 min to get to a dark and cool spot to suffer through the worst of it. Like I said about 10 min after the auras, they would stop. Once my vision would resume to normal, about 5 min later is when the pain would strike my head like a bowling ball hitting the pins. They only way I can describe it is as if I had a metal rod shooting from my eye socket out the back of my head. My neck becomes so unbelievably tense and the nausea which is probably the worst for me, would be unbearable. With a Migraine typically the only way to get past it is to rest…. There is absolutely no resting with that out of this world nausea however. I mean I had two children and could still vouch for the fact it is nothing in comparison to when I get sick from a migraine. I would forcibly make myself throw up during this hellish experience just to get rid of some of the pain in my head in hopes to get some sleep so that I could fully recover.

After about 5 hours or so I would be out of the woods and in the euphoric postdrome stage. Absolutely giddy to finally be pain-free. I am one of the lucky sufferers though… Some can suffer this for anywhere from 4-72 hours and have chronic migraines attacks through their daily lives. I had one friend who had to constantly be on medication to avoid daily suffering, and another woman who had to modify her entire families diet plan, because if she so much as even touched the food that triggered her migraine she would be out. I myself do not get them as chronically as some and mine seem to only be triggered from extreme hormonal changes ie menstrual cycles, birth control, when I was pregnant, right after I had my children ect. Many other triggers however can include ;

  • Food Additives
  • Stress
  • Sensory stimuli
  • Changes to sleep factors
  • Physical factors

I just wanted to touch on this subject a little bit to draw as much awareness as possible. For there seems to so be many misconceptions about Migraines. Everything from “they are just really bad headaches” to the belief that “migraines are actually your fault”. When in fact migraines are debilitating, unpredictable, and above all else terrifying.

We should most certainly not only bring awareness to this disorder, but as well have tolerance.Make it a priority to educate yourselves on the facts of Migraines. I hope one day we can find a way to alleviate all suffers of migraines forever, and I most certainly pray every day that my girls do not get this horrible condition themselves. Until that day however I will continue to bring as much awareness as I can and pray for a release of the pain from the millions of suffers worldwide. Namaste!