Anxiety

Anxiety is a mental health disorder defined by feelings of worry, anxiety, or fear that are so strong & intense enough that they interfere with one’s daily activities.

Anxiety & panic attacks strike suddenly & abruptly with intense waves of fear and worry along with the physical symptoms of shortness of breath, dizziness, rapid heartbeat, sweats, trembling, tightness of chest, shallow breathing & nausea just to name a few. Quite frankly you feel as if your dying…feel as if you are having a heart attack.

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental disorder in America with over 40 million suffering.

I’m just one in those statistics that not only suffers from anxiety but from crippling anxiety attacks. Yet I often times feel very alone in my illness. It’s so much more than excessive worries & intrusive thoughts. It’s a real pain in my chest, a real lack to be able to properly breath, shakes, sweating, a real sense of being dizzy & about to pass out, headaches, fatigue….you name it. Then the aftermath of feeling stupid, worthless, that I’m simply overreacting.

Thankfully though in this day, anxiety is far less stigmatized & heard of more. In my opinion I feel a big part of this illness on the rise consists particularly due to how rushed and over competitive our society has become. The stress is simply unnatural. We are always being reminded we have to be faster, better, ect so we overload our plates. Force ourselves into becoming workaholics just to have a shot at being successful in this day & age.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about working hard & being productive. However that said, we need to take better care of ourselves & our minds so that we don’t let the stress corroded our health to the point that we can no longer be productive.

Coping mechanisms for me included many but absolutely nothing in world to combat my anxiety beats sleep. I mean I have to clear an entire day dedicated to resting & taking it easy & being gentle on myself. Typically my main anxiety attack trigger consists of obsessing over all the things I need to get done….. I obsess so much it literally obliterates my nerves. Clearing the day out & resting is the most important factor in healing my mind & myself.

Additional non medicinal options include;

Steam room, sauna, hot baths

Gentle yoga, specifically geared towards anxiety

Breath work – this doesn’t always clear an anxiety attack out but can work wonders in getting you through those horrible peak moments

Aromatherapy- Lavender, Rose, tea tree & eucalyptus are my favorite anxiety fighting oils.

Even with our children we must teach them to be cognizant of overloading themselves. For this very reason, my husband and I are adamant about our children only being allowed one extracurricular activity during the school year. We do multiple summer camp activities, but during the school year they are only allowed to choose one. So that they can focus their energy on their activity, school work, and finding time to relax & to just be kids. It’s normal for our children to want to do all the things but we must teach them it’s not healthy or feasible even to overload themselves. Remember that anxiety is just a serious to take care of as having a cold or any other infection

Your body needs rest, your mind & body need to heal! Be gentle to yourself.

Namaste

You can have control or love but you can’t have both….

It’s a funny thing letting go of control. Control is such a strong comfort for so many. Often times due to the traumas & circumstances of our youth beyond our control in most cases . So we grow into adults who inadvertently hurt those closest to us, and find ourselves compelled to have control at all times. So that we may never have to go right back to feeling like that powerless child again. The thing about it is that often times the comfort of always being a creature of habit or in control at all times prevents …damn near blocks the ability to let true love and happiness into our soul.

Granted I get it it’s scary, frustrating even strange….yet at the same time that’s what love is suppose to be. It’s a life altering mind expanding emotion that has no room for cowardly hesitations. Ultimately we will have to choose whether we like it or not… You can have the control/ comfort that is derived from arrogance/ego/fear or you can let love overcome, immerse & transform you into that version of elusive happiness that you always wanted yet could never quite grasp.

The reason you could never grasp it is because you can’t have both.

Eventually you must choose control or the person…there is no other way. Also, to play games and to waste time will require you to loose that person and you will unfortunately have no one to blame for your own self made misery other than yourself

These thoughts have crept in and evolved for me individually with the lunar eclipse and full moon energy earlier in the week. It’s what this energy of the eclipses is all about. If you accept the harsh and tumultuous energy of the eclipse….you will come out for the better in the end…If you resist the energy out of fear…fear of lack of control…out of it being something different, you only do your soul more harm than good and will suffer more in the long run. So relax & go with the flow. Never let love pass you by due to fear or arrogance

Love and Namaste,

The Metaphysical Momma

Full Moon in Scorpio May 18th 2019

Ego is a hell of a concept. So many people use ego as their greatest and most misguided shield for their insecurities and wounds. The practice of belittling and dehumanizing others (even sometimes those we love the most) in order for one to feel “in control”, safe, and superior towards others. Its such a funny concept and truly a world with in their own mind that they live it. For why they are busy playing the all mighty power trippers in their own mind…. the way the rest of the world perceives them is nothing short of callous, cruel, and downright sad. If you have to put others down to make yourself feel better about you… how can there be any room for love in your heart? When you have surely chosen ego to rule over your heart instead. We have to make room for love in our hearts.

Thats what’s going on this full moon in scorpio, a real battle royal will you between ego & allowing yourself to be transformed. Transformed into what metaphysical momma? Well friends…. I would say that’s up to you. What are you feeling bubbling inside of you this week? What can you absolutely not shake out of your mind and soul…. What is preventing you from obtaining what makes you happy in your core? This week is important to let go of what is preventing you from meeting your destiny/ your happy in life.

The Scorpio full moon will be opposite Mercury. So overly rational thinking, self centerness, ego, victimization will all be looming and make the time ripe for arguments. Those arguments will be painful with the moon in the constellation Lupus the wolf. Or the victim, the symbolism of sacrifice and offering. The moon sextile Pluto will bring some serious deep seeded issues and painful reminders of childhood trauma and pain, it will be very deeply felt energy & if given the chance will transform you from your very soul.

Mothers Day

Some time its necessary….. Its absolutely essential. Do you make the time for you? Do you even remember who the you is? As a parent espcailly a mother…. We become lost…consumed in the everyday and the sacrifices as mothers we feel duty bound to make. Im not suggesting ton abandon your duties ladies or forget those beautiful souls who depend and love on us. Yet sometimes its important to remember the woman you are. Yesterday, for the first time in like 5 years I took time to finish a second cup of coffee out on my porch, then take a long bubble bath and after that take the time to do my yoga. I pushed myself to forget the guilt. The guilt of being the mom to hand the babies over to the dads. To think and actually enjoy myself first. After all are these not the qualities we wish to instill in our children? I want my girls to remember that being a mother doesn’t mean sacrificing the amazing woman you are & that they matter. They are valid. We must remember to be true to are essence & always set the proper example.

All that I am or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.

Abraham Lincon

Jupiter Retrograding

Jupiter & Juno on mount Ida

Jupiter went retrograde today and will be so until August 2019. The entire summer to be exact. There is always some sort of planet retrograding at some particular time of the year. Jupiter retrogrades every 13 months for about 4 months. This year Jupiter seems to be revolved around issues surrounding love and relationships.

It is a time of philosophical introverted analysis of what you need to work on to be able to grow in relationships, or the time needed to realize its in your highest good to walk away. This will for sure be the time you realize this relationship is it, it’s worth it & for the good or the bad you will purge ahead, come the end of the summer. Or you may realize you need to let the relationship go to properly evolve more yourself.

The astroid Juno will be conjunct the moon during this period. Juno rules the soulmate, true love and commitment aspect. So this summer will be a true test to either make or break a strong relationship with your soulmate or one true love.

“Juno symbolizes the yearning for full mystic union that is emotionally, sexually, and psychologically fulfilling….”

So I hope you all have a wonderful and eyeopening Jupiter retrograde and please leave me comments on any astrology questions or your own personal experience about this aspect. I would love to hear from you!!

Honoring Yourself- My Morning Meditation and Yoga Routine

Good Morning! I wanted to piece together a post that was a basic overview of my individual morning yoga & meditation routine. All I did was piece together my favorite energizing and focusing based energy poses, that takes no more than about 10 min in the morning to complete. For as mommas & busy ladies in general we all know how hectic our lives can get. It is utterly imperative to set time aside to clear and center yourself for the day ahead.

So firstly I start off in this pose and take about a couple of minutes to be still & meditate of my energy being cleared, balanced, productive, patient and protected. I try to always make sure to smile during this process because I believe it is a lovely way to set your day with energy that is positive and grateful.

From my meditation I then move on to do some cat/cow poses and make sure to truly pay attention to my slow and steadfast breathing. This is my modified version of childs pose. This is also really great for opening my hip flexors .

Then I go into my camel pose.
From there I transition into my downward facing dog position

After about three good in & out solid breaths I extended one leg behind me and hold for another couple of breaths. Then I sort of arch my foot to the other side and hold the pose again for a couple of smooth breaths.

Next I bring my foot up into my runner lunge position.

After my arm extension stretching, I immediately go into my warrior pose for a couple of nice deep breaths.

From the above pose I then would go back into downward dog and do the entire series of poses again but while using the other leg. Then I make my way back to downward facing down for the final time and then slowly walk forward to mountain pose but while hanging down in rag doll pose.

I typically always finish by slowly rising up into the pose below. I then typically down a glass of lemon water & grab my coffee. There is no set rhyme or reason to it and it’s something I dedicate to for at least 10 minutes in the morning. More is better if you can, but if your a super busy gal like me… I find 10 minutes is more than enough time to realign & to set some amazing intentions for the day. It gives me energy, focus, and all around great vibes to unfold my day to! Namaste!


Emotional Abuse and the Metaphysics behind it.

Humans are dichotomous creatures by nature. We are not only of the physical but the spiritual as well. Many choose to ignore or flat out deny both of these aspects as what we are truly made up of. I preach on a daily basis, to my readers, my family, my friends, anyone who will listen really the importance of nurturing and taking equal care of not only your physical health but your spiritual health as well. It is essential. This is in my opinion what makes abuse (of any form really), especially emotional abuse such a difficult and abrasive wound to overcome and most certainly a veniomous & heinous spiritual crime.

All abuse physical, sexual, emotional ect are horrendous.No matter what the source, all abuse results in lasting, profound and impactful emotional abuse. It is the emotional abuse that leaves individuals suffering in silence, fear, humiliation and often times guilt. Even physical forms of abuse will ultimately turn into deep emotional scars. The wounds may heal but the flashbacks and fear remain leaving a person paralyzed and overwhelmed. Individuals who suffer from emotional abuse often feel their scars are unjustified because there are no physical traces of hurt and pain and often times shame.

A few tips to always remember and push towards in your mind regarding abuse are as follows;

  1. You must make a valid and conscious effort to remove yourself from abusive situations. This of course is not always an option for many who fear for themselves and for their family or find themselves being emotionally blackmailed in an abusive situation. In these cases you must persevere- there are hotlines & counselors reading and willing to help you out of these dire situations. Regardless you are worth fighting for, worthy of being in a safe environment and WORTHY OF BEING HAPPY.
  2. Take a break/ get perspective. Get away or get involved in something that makes you feel like you again. Lifts your confidence and spirits back up. Meditation is my form of taking a break & getting a new form of perspective on myself & how to properly honor myself throughout the day
  3. Counseling
  4. Setting healthy boundaries. No one be it a friend or family member has the right you emotionally abuse and blackmail you. If they think that they do then it is perfectly acceptable to draw that boundary for your own sanity and explain you will not be engaging in a toxic relationship with anyone.

The thing is…. you are not the worlds punching bag, and know matter how many times you choose to excuse the kind of abuse another directs towards you. It is never warranted and most certainly never acceptable. Even if you love someone with all you have, that does not ever justify sacrificing your own well being for another’s frustration. As stated emotional abuse is abuse suffered in silence, confusion and most often times denial. Often time it is truly the most psychologically damaging because it is suffered in silence. It stifles ones spark & kills any sort of confidence.

If you don’t stand up for you, who in the world will?