Humans are dichotomous creatures by nature. We are not only of the physical but the spiritual as well. Many choose to ignore or flat out deny both of these aspects as what we are truly made up of. I preach on a daily basis, to my readers, my family, my friends, anyone who will listen really the importance of nurturing and taking equal care of not only your physical health but your spiritual health as well. It is essential. This is in my opinion what makes abuse (of any form really), especially emotional abuse such a difficult and abrasive wound to overcome and most certainly a veniomous & heinous spiritual crime.
All abuse physical, sexual, emotional ect are horrendous.No matter what the source, all abuse results in lasting, profound and impactful emotional abuse. It is the emotional abuse that leaves individuals suffering in silence, fear, humiliation and often times guilt. Even physical forms of abuse will ultimately turn into deep emotional scars. The wounds may heal but the flashbacks and fear remain leaving a person paralyzed and overwhelmed. Individuals who suffer from emotional abuse often feel their scars are unjustified because there are no physical traces of hurt and pain and often times shame.
A few tips to always remember and push towards in your mind regarding abuse are as follows;
- You must make a valid and conscious effort to remove yourself from abusive situations. This of course is not always an option for many who fear for themselves and for their family or find themselves being emotionally blackmailed in an abusive situation. In these cases you must persevere- there are hotlines & counselors reading and willing to help you out of these dire situations. Regardless you are worth fighting for, worthy of being in a safe environment and WORTHY OF BEING HAPPY.
- Take a break/ get perspective. Get away or get involved in something that makes you feel like you again. Lifts your confidence and spirits back up. Meditation is my form of taking a break & getting a new form of perspective on myself & how to properly honor myself throughout the day
- Setting healthy boundaries. No one be it a friend or family member has the right you emotionally abuse and blackmail you. If they think that they do then it is perfectly acceptable to draw that boundary for your own sanity and explain you will not be engaging in a toxic relationship with anyone.
The thing is…. you are not the worlds punching bag, and know matter how many times you choose to excuse the kind of abuse another directs towards you. It is never warranted and most certainly never acceptable. Even if you love someone with all you have, that does not ever justify sacrificing your own well being for another’s frustration. As stated emotional abuse is abuse suffered in silence, confusion and most often times denial. Often time it is truly the most psychologically damaging because it is suffered in silence. It stifles ones spark & kills any sort of confidence.
If you don’t stand up for you, who in the world will?