I recently joined a group, MOPS International. This beautiful network of women encourages and equips mothers of young children to realize their potential not only as mothers, women and leaders in their community, but in their relationship with Jesus, and in partnership with their local church as well. This network of women is about uniting in our motherhood and everyday struggles to support, discover and to inspire each other in every way possible. Finding our Fire is the theme of this year. Have you ever given much thought to what your fire is? Where your passions lie? Especially as mothers, we are so consumed with living and serving our families that we often forget to remember who we are and what we stand for as individual women. We forget our fire.
Meeting with these women and listening to these wise speakers a couple of things that struck out at me were; Firstly, Truly enjoying your littles. We all have heard the “enjoy it while you can, bc it goes by in a blink of an eye”. Not only have we heard this but we all understand it (to an extend), yet the reality is it’s a very difficult concept to apply in everyday life at times. Especially when our babies are so small. We are all so so tired and most often than not in survival robot mode. It’s about making sure everyone is fed, clothed, on a decent sleeping schedule that we forget ourselves and who we are. Raising children is so hard that we don’t realize what pure joy & a treat it truly is to have these pint size little comedians in our every day-to-day life. Have your children ever told a joke or did something that made you laugh or giggle so much that you realized that this very moment of joy would not only linger in your soul forever, but would utterly transform you. That is what enjoying your children is all about. Listing to them playing their make-believe games when they don’t realize you are watching, or seeing them dance with so much enthusiasm. There is so much wisdom to be learned from the little ones about enjoying the innocence and joys in life, join them in letting yourself enjoy the beautiful world around us. Join them in their perception of the world.
Secondly, a profound change in perception will in fact transform you. Think about it… when your children are a mess and you respond in miserable way, they too will feel that energy. Then in return they will give yet an even worse reaction. Thus a vicious cycle of toxic and miserable energy emerges between you and your child. Leaving you feeling more than likely guilty and like a crappy momma at the end of the day. Now I’m not suggesting not disciplining your child, children need structure to thrive in personal opinion. I’m just also a believer in they need a positive environment as well for success for both them and for your piece of mind as the amazing momma you are.
Lastly, Yes the cliché of the old ‘one day the things driving you crazy today, you will surly miss tomorrow’…. Today you perhaps would give anything to get them to stop talking for two seconds, but yet when they are a couple of years older its important to remember how much you will give for them to include and talk with you again just like when they were little. You truly are living the special moments of your life, do not let them pass you by unnoticed.
Seeing people through Gods eyes, not your own. That’s what is so important to keep in mind. You never ever know what a person is going through. Even someone you may classify as a bubbly air head or a cold and distant bitch, is still a human being worthy of love and understanding. You have no clue if they go home at the end of the day feeling not good enough. That’s what MOPS stands for….. supporting and propping your fellow mom up… let them know you see them! and they are not only enough, they are hitting it out of the damn park!
If you are a mom or know a mom, please check out/direct them to the MOPS organization here MOPS. Especially in this day and age where there are so many mom’s out there who are struggling daily, who are lonely, starved for adult conversation, get zero to little sleep, and especially those suffering from even trickier obstacles such as depression and anxiety. We need to come together, we need to love & support one another, we need to talk to one another.